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FAITH MATTERS
The Parish Magazine of St.
Faith, Havant with St. Nicholas, Langstone
NOVEMBER
2004 (Internet Edition)
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From the Rector
"We will remember them"
This month we remember those who gave
their lives in two World Wars and numerous other world
conflicts that have occurred since. We will recall the
untimely denial of life to those who fell and the
suffering of those who survived. Related to this we
recognise the effect of war upon loved ones, families
and friends. Furthermore we also acknowledge that war
has a lasting effect upon the economic, social and
psychological nature of nations. In so many ways the
British identity is still very much shaped by the two
world wars.
At the same time, however, change is
increasingly rapid in our culture. The incredible rise
of computerisation and related industries means that
world-wide communications are now instantaneous, whereas
just 50 years ago news from, say, Africa would take two
weeks to reach these shores and even longer to publicise
nation-wide. Equally rapid is the rate of change in so
many other areas of our lives. Buildings seem to be
built around us in all nooks and crannies of our towns,
supermarkets are being developed and ‘biggered’
everywhere while Government initiatives to improve
anything you can think of are announced every week.
In this ever-changing world, then,
what impact has the sacrifice of so few on today’s so
many apart from a 2-minute silence once a year? In
reality the gloomy answer is: not much. At least that’s
the way it appears. The organisations march and gather
for the remembrance services and some watch on
Television. Schools and colleges publicise the reasons
for Remembrance and do their best to educate the younger
generation to understand the level of suffering and
devastation felt by a nation in the time of war. But
does the message really get home? Psychologists observe
that ‘shock treatment’ (such as the revolting
anti-nicotine adverts with people dripping fat from
their cigarette ends) is only effective in the short
term and that people’s resistance to such news fades
very quickly. It is also established that only
incidences that happen to us personally really impinge
deeply upon our psyche, however empathetic we may feel
we are about other people’s troubles. Such a view is
borne out by the results of our Kairos
Spirituality audit which confirms that while many people
give to, and support, a variety of causes few go out of
their way to hear about the conditions in the poorer
nations and the innocent suffering of millions in
poverty.
So what is the point? Why do we
bother to repeat the Remembrance ritual – is it just
because we’re too lazy to challenge the cosy traditions
of the past or is there some greater, hidden value?
Actually I suspect that both are true. In the first
place I think that there is a crying need in our culture
for edifying, inclusive and engaging ritual. Even our
ritual in the church has become the practice of an
educated minority, of whom many object to some of the
recent practices introduced in the last 15-20 years.
Good ritual should relate to the real challenges and
practices of life and enable people to find a degree of
healing in their observance by feeling a part of what is
going on. When we get this right, and I hope sometimes
we do, there is a tangible sense of relief, release and
joy. Yet so much of what we do has become the activity
of a cult and removed from where everyday people are.
They sense that they are excluded by the complexity of
our ritual and its apparent irrelevance to their lives.
There is, if I am right, a huge challenge for us to
re-direct our ritual into the heart of people’s real
life struggles: into the very heart of God.
On the positive side – at least we
are still here: still trying to praise God for being
there alongside us in our search for peace and meaning.
We are still persevering in trying to remain true to
Christ’s life of self-giving and powerful dedication to
freedom, justice, reconciliation and love. It is
impossible to measure the impact that our ritual
observance of Remembrance is making unless we were to
stop and see! My suspicion is that the vast majority are
too caught up in the melee of their own lives to
appreciate Remembrance. But at the same time they are
comforted, encouraged and even uplifted by the knowledge
that others are at the war memorial honouring the dead
and recognising our communal debt to their
self-sacrifice. As a young man I used to play football
on a Sunday morning. Every year the silence was observed
before kick-off (which was delayed until 11:02). These
young men didn’t want to come to church, but they wanted
their ritual –a ritual in which they could find
expression for their gratitude and respect.
We will continue to remember them,
but our challenge is to ensure that the church is
central, rather than peripheral, to the act of
Remembrance.
David
Hymns
Ivan Morley noted in his article last
month: "Bye the bye, when were the hymns ever
selected by anyone other than the clergy?" In fact
the last time was June of this year when Sam Hudson and
friends chose the hymns for the Family Service held in
the hall. Its about time you had a chance to choose the
hymns again, so let me know your favourite hymns, please
and I will incorporate as many as I can in the coming
services.
David
Remembrance
With the 11th hour of the
11th month and Remembrance Sunday approaching
our thoughts turn to honouring the dead of two World
Wars and the many who have died since in Kipling’s
"savage wars of peace". There are some who impugn
the motives of those who remember exemplified by the
infamous White Poppy brigade accusing us of glorifying
war. Let me assure you no one who has experienced real
war would ever glorify it.
Reunions yes. The comradeship welded
in the crucible of war can never be pulled asunder.
Those of us who gather together to remember the dead and
the many who have died since, can also renew that
comradeship after the Act of Remembrance.
My war was the Korean War. Some call
it the forgotten war; not by me it isn’t. We were a
small unit of some 200 sailors and marines formed at the
rush to operate with the US Navy. After the North Korean
invasion of South Korea in 1950 collapsed, we joined the
US Marine Division, which was 70 miles into the
mountains of North Korea when China entered the war.
(Another example of failure to react to intelligence).
We were surrounded by nine Chinese Army divisions in sub
zero temperatures driven by screaming winds from
Siberia. Our charismatic Commanding Officer recounted
afterwards that one of our NCOs had said to him "I
have not said my prayers since I was a little boy but,
by God, I am saying them now". He spoke for most of
us.
The splendid US Marines fought their
way out. Our small force suffered 93 casualties; killed,
wounded and missing. By the end of our time in Korea 31
of our number had died including ten of our 29 prisoners
of war who had succumbed to the North Korean and Chinese
brutality.
These are the comrades I will be
remembering at our memorial at Eastney on 14 November
and at a Service of Remembrance in Bickleigh parish
Church near Plymouth beneath our Roll of Honour on 28
November; the 54th anniversary of our main
action. The British Commonwealth lost 1,263 killed in
"Service in Defence of the Principles of the Charter of
the United Nations". Many were National Servicemen
and Reservists recalled to the Colours. What was
achieved? The restoration of the sovereignty of South
Korea and never again did the Communist powers invade
another country. Surely it must be worth remembering
those who died in achieving this together with the many
thousands who died in the service of their country
before and since?
A Parishioner
Did You Know? The first official
British Legion Poppy Day was held in Britain on 11
November 1921, inspired by the poem "In Flanders'
Fields" written by John McCrae, a doctor serving
there with the Canadian Armed Forces.
About The Parish
The Raising of Lazarus in this
month's issue of "Faith Matters" is the last
miracle from Cosmo Gordon Lang's book, which I will be
writing about in the magazine. (Joy says that is a
miracle in itself!) The subject of the miracles of our
Lord has caused much discussion and indeed argument over
the years. Lang was careful to say in his book that he
assumed the accuracy of the Gospel narratives and that
he was not attempting to deal with the evidences of the
miracles. I thought I would wind up the articles by
making some general observations about the miracles,
based on my recent reading.
First some facts: the Gospels have 35
stories of occasions when Jesus performed deeds which
onlookers deemed miraculous. In addition, there were
many references in general terms of Him performing
miracles. Even the Jewish historian and Roman
collaborator, Josephus, in his standard history of the
Jewish People, written towards the end of the 1st
Century, refers to Jesus at one point as "a
miracle-worker who was the Messiah". In more than
half of the incidents documented, Jesus healed people
suffering from leprosy, dropsy, paralysis, blindness,
deafness or dumbness. He also cast out demons - clearly
people with mental illness. There were three incidents
of Him raising people from the dead. The other miracles
were of a more physical nature; turning water into wine,
calming the raging sea, etc.
Remember that Jesus left no written
accounts; all we know of his ministry and life were
passed by word of mouth from one generation to another.
Apart from St John's Gospel, which was written by a
disciple, albeit 40 years after the events, all the
other Gospel writers had no personal knowledge of Jesus
and relied upon the accounts of onlookers. Even St Paul
never met Jesus and his Letters made very little
reference to the events of Jesus's life. The first
Gospel to be written (thought to be Mark's) was more
than 30 years after the events. So how is it that people
spoke of the miracles? Clearly they were of such
magnitude and influence that they caused people to pass
down accounts of them in awe and wonderment.
The miracles are an integral part of
the ministry of Jesus. As one learned commentator wrote,
"One thing is certain, we cannot dismiss the miracles
to have a non-miraculous Jesus." Where is the
evidence that they did not occur? Someone argued that if
we had reliable evidence of just one miracle, then it
would be almost impossible to dispute the others
recorded. But we have one such miracle - the
Resurrection. The evidence that reliable witnesses
claimed to have seen Jesus alive after his death is
incontrovertible. It is all a question of faith. We
either believe or we do not. Some may have their doubts
about the evidence available to us but none can doubt
that there is evidence. The life and ministry of Jesus
is an historic fact; the rest is for us to decide.
Roger Bryant
Correspondence Column
Credimus or Credo - Contemporary
Language Services (1)
David Williams has set out a
passionate case for moving our Sunday Eucharist from
traditional to contemporary language. I believe his
argument overlooks an important point. As he says, in
the 16th and 17th centuries,
official Prayer Books were issued quite frequently –
almost as often as has happened since Series 1/2 in the
1960s. Changes could be absorbed quite easily. But by a
historical accident (or possibly it could be divine
providence) the 1662 Prayer Book became the standard for
more than 300 years, and part of our language. Until the
arrival of Series 3, written in banal ‘everyday’
language, anyone brought up in the Church of England
would have known the background of phrases in everyday
use. Now we have younger generations who know nothing of
the Ten Commandments, let alone the origins of sayings
like ‘our bounden duty’.
I do not believe non-worshippers will
be attracted into church by ‘Contemporary Language’.
Unless they are persuaded they need to acknowledge God
in their lives, we have nothing to offer them. Perhaps
slightly mysterious language can enhance worship.
As for the ‘I/We’ debate, Fr
David mentions the startling fact that the Nicene Creed
has wavered between ‘I’ and ‘We’ while the
Apostles’ Creed remained steadily on ‘I’. I
hadn’t realised this, but it does indicate to me that it
was the change from ‘We’ to ‘I’ in the
second millennium that corrected an aberration, rather
than the change back in the third.
It is indisputable, however, that St
Faith’s is now out of step, and surrounded by parishes
using the contemporary language versions of Common
Worship. There is a good argument for uniformity, but it
is no stronger than the old advertising slogan
"Twenty million housewives can’t be wrong". A better
parallel might be the Gadarene swine – except that if
you have only been taught RE from the Good News Bible,
you won’t know about them. The GNB translators call them
‘pigs’. Alan Hakim
Credimus or Credo - Contemporary
Language Services (2)
In my article in the October edition
of "Faith Matters", I have been asked why I
referred to "325 CE" and not "325 AD". I
agonised a little over CE (Common Era) vs AD (Anno
Domini). My inclination was to use the older convention
- after all that is how I think about it. In the end, I
decided to accommodate modern practice: that is the
usage in most theological journals nowadays and I didn't
want to upset anybody! I seem to have called that one
wrong!
In response to Alan Hakim’s letter, I
do think that there is a proper distinction between the
functions of a baptismal and a Eucharistic creed - as
exemplified in the Apostles and the Nicene creeds. One
is a personal statement the other is a communal
statement. In the Eucharist we are the communal body of
Christ; it is not appropriate to use personal first
person singular language.
I am sorry but I share with Cranmer a
refusal to equate banal with everyday. I know that we
are not going to agree on this. I wonder about the
claims that people not in the church want the sense of
mystery provided by the old language against the claims
that they need to understand what is happening. It is of
enormous importance to the church that we get this
right.
Perhaps the difference between us is
whether mystery can be expressed in comprehensible
English. I believe that it can, I think (my apologies
for the unchecked assumption) that you believe that it
cannot. Whatever, we need to continue this debate - it
does matter.
David Williams
Our Church Family
I would like to thank you for the
very real interest and happiness for me that you showed
before and after the wedding of my daughter Madeleine –
as you all assured me that it would be, it was
"alright on the day"!
I want to give particular thanks to
Vicki, Valentine, Jenny and Peggy who helped so much in
the preparation of the church hall and to Ann for her
various flower arrangements – I couldn’t have coped
without them.
David took the service beautifully
and we are grateful to Judith and her sister for the
singing during the signing of the register.
Also, for some time now we have been
praying for my friend Eileen Haywood, who has been
suffering from cancer. She rang me this week (10th
October) to say that she is now in complete
remission. She lost her faith some years ago, but knows
that we have had her on our prayer list – my further
prayer is that her faith will be renewed – she does
agree that "something must have done it".
Ruth Tunks
Prayers for the Sick
I notice that the prayer list is
getting longer. Of course it is right and proper that we
should pray for the sick. However, would it not be
helpful (without being intrusive) to have a little more
detail in order that we may be of some practical use?
For example, hospital visiting, shopping, etc.
Bearing in mind that these days one
has to be vetted by the Criminal Records Bureau, should
not the relevant Vision Committee seek a list of those
willing to help and apply for clearance?
Marian Dodsworth
A Letter to the Editor
It is common knowledge that Pam and I
are intent on going to live in France and, through the
magazine, we would like to give a brief summary of our
progress in response to the many kind enquiries from our
friends at St. Faith’s.
At the beginning of September, with
two weeks at our disposal, we set off in pursuit of our
dream. The quest has been ongoing for over a year so we
were confident of finding our "Chez Nous" this
time.
The area of interest to us is just
south of Normandy near Alençon. We had many properties
available for consideration but those we chose to view
were not satisfactory.
However, at the beginning of the
second week we were sitting in a notary’s office giving
our instructions for the purchase of a delightful
four-storey house. It stood on the banks of the River
Sarthe in the shadow of a ninth century chateau and only
minutes from the town centre. The front garden ran down
to the water’s edge giving boat mooring and fishing
rights.
After two days and sleepless nights
we returned to the notary and withdrew our offer! The
problem was that the charm of the place had blinded us
to its unsuitability due to the steep and narrow stairs,
which would soon have given problems. I refer, of
course, to arthritis and old age! Although disappointed
so far, we will continue our search undaunted.
Derek Bowley
Good Morning
I am the Lord your God.
Today I will be handling all of your
problems.
Please remember that I do not need
your help.
If the devil happens to deliver a
situation to you that you cannot handle, do not attempt
to resolve it.
Kindly put it in the ‘something for
Jesus to do’ box.
It will be addressed in my time, not
yours.
Once the matter is placed into the
box, do not hold on to it or attempt to remove it.
Holding on or removal will delay the resolution of your
problem.
If it is a situation that you think
you are capable of handling, please consult me in prayer
to be sure that it is the proper resolution.
Because I do not sleep nor do I
slumber, there is no need for you to lose any sleep.
Rest my child. If you need to contact me, I am only a
prayer away.
Love eternally,
The Lord Your God.
Farm Walk |
| Colin and Fiona Hedley
hosted a Farm Walk on Sunday 19 September to raise money
for the Restoration Appeal Fund. Their farm is the
Langstone Dairy Farm, although no milk has been produced
since 1974 when the dairy herd was dispersed under an EU
scheme. The farm has been in the Hedley family since
1965. For 20-years now, they have made hay for sale and
now haylage - grass, stored in large plastic bags is
made for winter cattle feed. Since 1998, a beef cattle
herd - Angus cross Friesian breed - has been built up –
currently there are 11 cows and 10 calves. Most of the
50 acres of land is permanent pasture, which means it is
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27 adults and 16 children gathered in
the farmyard on a bright afternoon for an introduction
by Colin. This was followed by a 1½-hour walk around the
farm, stopping on the way, for Colin to explain
environmental issues, farming problems and points of
interest. The walk ended back at the farmyard, with a
welcome cup of tea. The children had a farm quiz and the
adults were invited to guess five objects that are used
on the farm.
The total raised was £115.
Thanks to Colin and Fiona for an interesting,
informative and refreshing walk that was enjoyed by both
the adults and the children. |
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correspondent on Letters Page
'Homeless' - you have omitted to enclose your name
and address. Editor
Cosmo Gordon Lang and the miracle of
"The Raising of Lazarus"
This is one of the most famous
accounts in the Bible and yet it only appears in John's
Gospel. Lazarus was the brother of Martha and Mary. The
Gospel records that Jesus loved the three of them. Yet
when the two women came to Him with the message that
their brother was close to death, Jesus remained in his
abode for two days. This perplexed the women, for Jesus
loved Lazarus and yet, apparently, was not moved to help
him. In the two days, Lazarus died.
Lang records, "But here in this
story we have the rebuke of our faithlessness. Jesus did
love; He did receive the message; but He allowed
physical laws to finish their work and Lazarus died. Yet
when Martha doubted, He answered - Said I not until
thee, that if thou would believe, thou should see the
glory of God." In Lang's view, the story of the
raising of Lazarus demonstrated how Jesus viewed death.
Consider his words - "This sickness is not unto death
but for the glory of God. Our friend Lazarus has fallen
asleep; I go that I may awake him out of the sleep."
He would not speak of death to Martha but said,
"Whosoever liveth and believer in me shall never die".
As John tells us in his Gospel, Jesus
went back to Judea, despite the warnings of his
disciples that many Jews there were seeking to stone Him
to death. As Jesus approached Bethany, Martha came alone
to meet Him. She told Him, "I know that Lazarus shall
rise again in the resurrection at the last day". But
then Jesus spoke the immortal words, which are at the
heart of our faith; "I am the resurrection and the
life. He that believeth in me shall never die."
Coming to the house of Lazarus, John
tells us that Jesus was moved to tears at the sight of
Mary and others weeping and in great distress. Jesus
asks to be taken to the grave. It was a cave, with a
stone across the entrance. He said, "Father, I thank
thee that thou hast heard me. And I know that thou
hearest me always; but because of the people which stand
by I said it, that they may believe that thou hast sent
me." He then said with a loud voice, "Lazarus
come forth" And he came forth bound in graveclothes.
Jesus said, "Loose him and let him go."
Lang puts great store by the need of
witness at a burial. He expresses it in these words,
"By the calmness of our bearing, the chastening of our
human sorrow, the shining of the light of faith through
the human tears, the quiet brightness and simple praise
with which we commend the bodies of the beloved dead to
their resting place, by the resoluteness with which we
still keep them in our lives in the fellowship of prayer
and household talk, we are to let men see that even in
death we behold the glory of God." Amen
Roger Bryant
You know you are getting old when the
candles cost more than the cake.
Bob Hope
Christmas Greetings
It has been suggested that this year
people might like to send a Christmas greeting to
parishioners at St. Faith’s Church and St. Nicholas’
Chapel via the magazine instead of sending individual
cards.
Should you wish to do this, please
write your greeting, giving details to whom it is for,
with your own name, clearly marking it "Christmas
Greetings" and put it in the brightly coloured red
"post box" on the table in the Church by 15
November. Greetings will appear in the December edition
of the magazine.
From the Editor
For the second consecutive month we
have 28-pages in "Faith Matters" – thank you to
all that have contributed. We have a discussion going on
regarding "Contemporary Language. Do let me have
your views to help the PCC know what you think as it is
an agenda item for discussion and ultimately to decide
whether to make the change.
This month, 14 November, we remember
the people who lost their lives for the country in the
two World Wars, in Korea, Suez, Borneo, Falklands, the
two wars in Iraq and the other conflicts, such as
Malaya, and not forgetting the peace keeping roles that
the UK forces were, and are still, involved. |
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After spending holidays for the last
11 years in the Algarve, I thought it would be nice to
take Beryl to visit the capital city of Portugal for her
birthday treat, as I had previously visited Lisbon
several times whilst serving in the Royal Navy. So off
we set on an Air Portugal flight for a long weekend last
month. Lisbon is a very interesting city, both
architecturally and historically combining the medieval
city, which is the only part to have survived the
earthquake in 1755, with the new. The old has very
narrow streets, cobbled roads and rickety trams that are
filled with passengers like the London tube in the rush
hour – all very exciting! The new has a modern metro, a
large shopping centre and the largest Aquarium in Europe
in an area regenerated for EXPO98. One outstanding
statue, for there are many, erected in 1959, is that of
Christ, which is a replica of the one in Rio de Janeiro,
and stands at the mouth of the River Tagus welcoming the
visitor whether travelling by air, sea or land. The
statue is perched on a 260ft (80m) pedestal on top of
one of the seven hills of the city. |
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A year ago, our Correspondence Column
was full of letters about homosexuality. The Windsor
Report by the Lambeth Commission, headed by Irish
primate Robin Eames and established following a row over
the ordination of a gay US bishop and the decision of
the Canadian diocese of New Westminster to bless gay
relationships was released last month. The report
sharply criticised the Anglican church in the US - known
as the Episcopal Church - for consecrating Gene Robinson
as Bishop of New Hampshire last year. It called on the
church to apologise and refrain from promoting any other
clergy living in a same-sex union. Will this decision
split the Anglican church? – time will tell.
Colin Carter
Animal Magic
The evening on 13 November in St. Faith’s Church
consists of songs and poems about animals performed by
the junior and senior choirs with a guest appearance by
Judith Williams’ (our organist) sister Margaret Stainsby.
Tickets are £6 adults, £2 children and includes light
refreshments at the interval. The concert starts at 7pm.
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St. Faith’s Church
As the mists of evening descended, I
walked up to the open church door and went in. It was
almost dark inside, a pale light coming only through the
stained glass windows. There was stillness with
something very wonderful about it, as though the whole
building was waiting for something to happen; I felt
comforted and at peach.
Perfume of flowers drifted in the
still air, their shadows fell across the altar where
overhead a red light burnt steadily on. Harvest Festival
gifts were everywhere. The pillars stood firm, entwined
with wayside flowers and along the ledges, the church
had become a beautiful tribute to nature.
The silence was broken by the
warbling of a little bird somewhere outside in a yew
tree, other birds joined in singing their evening songs;
I stayed no longer.
Outside in the churchyard,
grasshoppers chirped near the sad mounds and sunken
tombstones, a bat hovered overhead. I turned to look up
at the high tower silhouetted against the starlit sky.
Something great and mysterious seemed
to shine around this church; I walked away leaving it
guarding our town as it had for many, many years.
Jennifer M Trodd (nee Abbott)
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Bell Ringing at Winchester Cathedral
On Wednesday, 18 August the
Winchester and Portsmouth Diocesan Guild of Church Bell
ringers held their District Practice at the Cathedral
Church of the Holy Trinity, St Peter, St Paul & St
Swithun, Winchester. Barbara, Pat and myself decided it
was an opportunity not to be missed to take part in
ringing as part of 14 bells.
The climb up to the ringing chamber
is an experience not for the faint hearted. Entry is
through a narrow door and up a fairly easy wide,
twisting stone spiral staircase to another narrower and
steeper climb and then out to walk along a confined
gallery high above the Cathedral central nave. At the
end of the gallery we passed through a narrow door where
the real climb began up an even steeper stone spiral
with only a rope to assist. The tight, twisting and
often worn steps spiralled ever upwards to a sharp turn
and an even steeper spiral before emerging into the
broad expanse of the ringing chamber.
The bell ropes, 14 in all, form a
circle in the centre of a chamber built of stone and
ancient oak timbers. The Cathedral clock movement is
housed along one side of the chamber in a large wooden
enclosure. The walls are covered in Peal Boards going
back to previous centuries - Coronations, Nelsons
Victory at Trafalgar, the Festival of Britain and
Ringing in the Millennium.
About forty ringers from all over the
District attended, Jim Twiney, was captain of ringing
and arranged for everyone to ring up to the standard
they were happy with.
Ringing as part of 14 bells is quite
different from St Faith's where we have 8 bells and is
much faster. To hear 14 bells’ ringing a musical method
is a really lovely sound. Bell ringers are a
companionable group of people and everyone enjoyed the
evening.
Anne Plater
Taken From a CV
Failed bar exam with relatively high
grades.
Letters
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Home Start

‘Home-Start?’ said the person
behind me at the checkout, on seeing my red sweater with
its Home-Start logo. ‘Isn’t that a get-you-home
service for cars?’ Well, no actually. It’s a
voluntary sector organisation that offers support to
parents with young children under 5 during difficult
times in their lives.
Home-Start was established nationally
more than thirty years ago in 1973 and ten years later a
group was set up in Havant. Since then, more than 2,000
families in this area have benefited from the help which
is offered. No two families are alike and volunteers may
be asked to befriend a mother who has post natal
depression or a deserted father who has been left to
cope with small children or a mother who is new to the
area and far away from her relatives or a family where
the parents have spent time in care and have found it
hard to manage money and a home. The list is endless and
referrals may be self referred, or come through doctors,
health visitors or the social services.
Most families are allocated a
volunteer helper/friend who will visit them for a couple
of hours at least once a week. These visits may continue
over a period of a few months or for a few years, for
just as long as the family has a need and while there
are children under 5 in the family. Some families come
to one of the family groups that are held at child
friendly centres in the Borough. Here they can meet
other fathers and mothers and the children have the
opportunity to let off steam.
No volunteer is sent unprepared for
their time with a family. There is a comprehensive and
interesting training course put on before we are ‘let
loose in the field’ and there is constant support
and supervision after that time.
We aim to support our family, to
befriend them and not be judgmental and to share their
fears and joys. We work alongside the parents, focussing
on their strengths and emphasising the pleasures of
family life.
Could you be a volunteer? We need
both men and women to help us. I can guarantee that you
will never be bored! Home-Start Havant receives grants
from many organisations to help with the day to day
running but donations are always welcome to help pay for
the extras for which we cannot get aid: outings (both
for groups and individuals), a Christmas party, special
help for a family in need. We are grateful when we
receive good quality clothes and toys and harvest
produce. If you would like to know more, I should be
pleased to answer any questions or alternatively, speak
to the Organiser, Sandra Alexander. Home-Start Havant is
based at the Mill Hill Early Years Centre, Mill Road,
Waterlooville PO7 7DB, telephone number 023 9224 1234
Hilary Deadman
Nine Lessons & Carols - Sunday 19
December at 6.30pm
This year we are combining our
efforts and joining with the Rotary Club of Havant in
our very own "Rotary Nine Lessons and Carols".
We are delighted that the Mayor is
joining us and a number of other well-known people will
be participating in addition to our own involvement.
Rotary, is a worldwide association of professional and
business people, who primarily wish to provide a high
standard of service in their communities, locally,
nationally and internationally.
There are many groups and individuals
in the Parish who are very grateful to Rotary, you will
see Rotarians quietly assisting and raising funds for
specific Charitable causes in the locality. Many of our
congregation are Rotarians, you will recognise them by
their badge which they always wear.
Rotary will have been active in
Havant for 50 years in 2007, and the movement celebrates
its centenary next year.
We know that the Church will be
overflowing on the 19th December, don’t let
that deter you, come and sing your hearts out and end by
enjoying mince pies and mulled wine!
Bike & Walk Ride – 11 September
I would like to thank everyone who
took part in this event on the 11th
September. You all worked very hard and raised the total
sum of £304.06. Daniel raised the good sum of
£60.65 this year – Vicki of course had to cycle with him
because he is only 8 years old.
Thanks to the seven other young ones
who took part with their Dads and Mums. I would also
mention Sheila Creech who raised the sum of £111 having
WALKED six miles around Portsmouth after visiting the
Havant Churches.
All your efforts are greatly
appreciated and our Restoration Fund will benefit by
half the amount raised. Audrey Currie
Seen in Church Bulletins (Georgie
be careful with the wording of ours!)
Tuesday at 4pm there will be an ice-cream social. All
ladies giving milk please come early.
Wednesday, the Ladies Literary Society will meet. Mrs
Johnson will sing "Put me in a little bed"
accompanied by the Pastor.
Christmas Gift
Should you be thinking what to buy somebody for
Christmas, there are two selections you could make
regarding a painting of St. Faith’s Church.
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Firstly, Mark Chaldecott has
completed an oil on canvas painting, 20" x 30". Price of
the framed painting is £350 of which 20% (i.e., £70) of
the sale goes to the church funds. The painting is on
display at Trentham Pictures & Frames at 40 North
Street, Havant. The gallery is open Wednesday to
Saturday when the painting can be viewed.
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Secondly, you could purchase a print
of a painting by Sarah Butterfield from Prince George
Galleries in The Pallant, price £30 unframed. Prince
George Galleries charge a total of £59.99 for a framed
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Gift Subscription of Faith Matters
Would you like us to send a copy of ‘Faith
Matters’ each month to family or friends on your
behalf?
Gift subscriptions for 12 issues
during 2005 will be posted to UK addresses for £8.00.
Postage to other addresses will be advised on request.
If you would like to take up this
offer, please contact Roger Bryant.
Pastoral Care Support Teams
We are seeking volunteers to become
members of our Pastoral Care Support teams.
The challenge is to provide pastoral
support to anyone who requests it. Requests could be
written on card posted in church, by speaking to a
volunteer in church at publicised times (e.g. after
morning services), or by telephoning the clergy or
Parish Office.
Visits will initially be co-ordinated
by one of the clergy, who will contact a volunteer to
follow up the request. All visits will be strictly
confidential.
The role of the groups will be to
provide support as listeners to all types of people in
our community. You will work in pairs to meet
individuals in their homes, in hospital, or in St
Faith’s Church.
Training will be given in listening
skills, and will require approx. one evening a week for
about 5 weeks starting in the New Year. You will always
have the support of the clergy if ever needed.
In addition Police vetting will be
required, however this will be treated in the utmost
confidence and a criminal record will not necessarily
disbar anyone.
You will not be expected to cover all
types of request. You may prefer to visit only members
of our congregation. However you may feel that you are
prepared to listen to a complete stranger who comes into
our church seeking support without an appointment.
Pastoral Care support will also
include Holy Communion at home by an appointed lay
assistant, or anointment by a priest. Please consider
carefully if you can offer yourself to this special
calling. If you are interested please contact Father
David Gibbons.
Barry Hudson
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