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GETTING MARRIED?
Naming the Date
Before doing anything else the date
and time of your wedding must be arranged.
You can make enquiries in church after
Sunday worship (at 9.30am or 6.30pm) or contact the
Parish Office - Clare Kennar (023 9249 2129).
Fill in the application and make sure
you give your telephone number. You will receive a
confirming letter after you have made the booking.
The Banns
The Banns must be read in any Church
of England Parish Church involved (even if you have a
Roman Catholic or Free Church background).
Banns cannot be read until three
months before your wedding, and must be read in each
Parish Church where the parties live.
This may mean going to the other
Vicar(s) involved and hearing the banns read on at least
one of three successive Sundays. They do not have to be
read out on the same day in each church.
Your wedding cannot take place unless
the Vicar who is marrying you has your Banns certificate
beforehand.
There is a charge of £12 for the certificate.
The Interview
You must have a wedding interview, one
or two months before the wedding takes place when we
arrange the practical details.
Rehearsal
There will be a rehearsal (lasting
thirty minutes) in the church to get the footwork right,
before the wedding.
The bride and the groom are essential
for this, but the best man, bridesmaids and parents are
much appreciated.
Banns certificates from other churches
and fees will be received at the end of the rehearsal.
What will it cost?
Church Commissioners raise the fee
each year. For 2009 the costs are:
Publication of banns (£22), marriage service
(£254)
and marriage certificate (£3.50): Total £279.50 plus additional
costs for Organist: £65
Choir: £110 Bells:
£100 and Flowers: see below.
There is an additional charge for
video recording inside the church and a charge for
heating during the winter months.
Please make cheques payable to St.
Faith Church, Havant; cash is also acceptable.
What about the flowers?
Church members expertly arrange
flowers in the church each week. If you wish for
additional arrangements, we are happy for you to arrange
for this with your florist. Please inform Mrs Rosemary
Thomas (023 9248 3836) who is in charge of arrangements
at church.
Photographs/Videos?
Photographs may be taken coming in and
going out of church and during the signing of the
register. They are not permitted during the service and
you are asked to make this clear to enthusiastic
relatives! Video recording is permitted, provided
operators strictly obey the guidelines about where to
stand.
What about the Service?
Start by exploring the meaning of
Christian marriage using the service book, before you
think about hymns, etc.
The assumptions about the meaning of
marriage in the service, and in the Bible, may be quite
different from the views expressed in popular music,
magazines or TV ‘soaps’.
With the pressure of today’s world, if
your marriage is to be a strong one, then you must let
God into your plans, your hopes, and your fears too.
Only Jesus Christ, by His Spirit
living in us, can give us the strength to love and go on
loving.
Hymns
It is usual to have a hymn of praise
at the beginning, a hymn of dedication in the middle,
after the sermon, and a hymn of looking forward to the
future at the end. The exact arrangement and number of
hymns is negotiable – two or three hymns is normal.
Choose hymns that your families and friends will know.
Familiar, cheerful hymns will set the
tone of the whole wedding day. We have a hymnbook
covering most styles of music. You are free to borrow
hymn and service books to decide.
Organ Music
The organist will play suitable
voluntaries before and after the service, and during the
signing of the register. You may need to provide your
own sheet music if we do not have it. If you wish to
provide your own musicians of any kind, full organist’s
fees are still payable to the church and permission must
first be sought.
Printed Order of Service
You are strongly encouraged to make
your own Order of Service – it is your day, so make
every effort to contribute to the ceremony. Rough proofs
of the order of service should be agreed with the
Vicar presiding over the ceremony. Make sure that they are available in the church
at least half an hour before the service begins.
But most importantly
We offer our best wishes for your
wedding and your future happiness.
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